Please Give Me Your Blog Addr For Relink. :)

Good day friends.

Please give me your blog addr again for relink. Just redesigned my blog, however, lost every links.

Thanks!

Hugging.

Dear friends,

Would like to share a snippet of an interesting article that I came across.

For the full story, please visit http://www.allthatwomenwant.com/hugging.htm.



How to Hug. :)

Hugging is a way of connecting with others, of showing your genuine affection and appreciation, of valuing others, and of giving. All of these are positive, healthy, life enhancing purposes. While hugging is natural and we all know how to do it, I have put together some guidelines to help make you a better hugger.

* Begin the hug with great eye contact. This communicates to the receiver the spirit in which the hug is being given.

* Be present during the hug. Even if the hug is only for three seconds, devote your total energy and focus on the person you are hugging. Feel how good it feels to both give and receive.

* When you finish the hug and are pulling away, make great eye contact again. This further blesses the receiver, and communicates a positive feeling to them.

* A hug is not an opportunity to burp the other person! Be gentle. This goes especially for the guys - a hug isn't the start of a wrestling match either.

* Avoid the one-hip hug or the tee-pee hug. If you are going to hug, do it right! (And this isn't an excuse, to make the hug overtly sexual either - to the sexual harassment point above - unless, well, that's another article!)

* If you are much taller than the other person, bend your knees. Make the hug comfortable and a blessing.

* If you are hugging children, get on your knees and be at their eye level. If they are small enough, pick them up to hug them.

All of these guidelines are about making the hug a completely positive, giving experience. As in many other things in our lives, when we think about others, we can make better decisions. The same is true for hugs - hug with the huggee in mind!

Happy Hugging. Start with your loved ones. :)

Losing of the EGO is like falling in an endless pit.

Dear friends.

Firstly, CONGRATs for all who have completed the final lap of the year, EXAMS. :)

Do remember, TAKE A BREAK and go have fun. :) You DESERVE IT!!!!

Back to my title...A realisation I gotten through my talk with someone important. :)

"Losing of the EGO is like falling in an endless pit"...

Firstly, what is EGO again? If your remember my last entries, EGO is creating an Identity with Something. Ego creates a perceived Self. Who we think we are. Or what we claim and believe that we are. It is like a "life role" that we assume.

For example, we could assume certain attributes about ourself and say things like, "I am Strong", "I am Creative", "I am Special". And the most common EGO that you get to hear from people would be, "I am right" and "you are wrong."

I must first state that, there is nothing wrong with having EGOs. From the time we were born, our EGOs have served us so that we can "survive" up to today and we are able to function in the current environment.

However, when we assume our EGOs for too long, and forgotten our true self, goodness and essence, that is when, we LOSE OURSELF and problems start to arise.

Conflicts happen when we fight for what we identify as "right". Fights happen when we refuse to accept our own "wrongs". Wars start when we over identify with our ways as the only way.

Just look at the wars over the history of mankind. It has always started because of Super EGOs. Example, World War II was because of Hitler, genocide in Iraq and invasion of Kuwait by Saddam Hussein, genocide in Cambodia by Pol Pot.

However, all is not lost. Once we are able to release our EGOs and start to believe in the true goodness in our true self, and our essence, we usually find ourselves achieving miraculous things that some times surprises even ourselves.

Ask yourself these questions. Weren't there moments when you were so impressed by yourself and what you do? How were you like during those moments? Isn't it true that those are the moments which you feel that you are supported by EVERYTHING around you?

Dear friends, those are the moments which I believe you are in touch with your true self and totally away from your EGO, or perceived self. And that's the reason why, you achieved greatness.

During those moments, you perform at a level that is comparable to great people of human history like Ghandi, Martin Luther King Jr, Mother Theresa, Confucius.

That seed of greatness is within you...and everyone around you.

That's the wonderful news.

But the sad news is this. To consciously be working on releasing our EGOs is terribly frightening.

Can you imagine this. To release your EGO can likened to releasing your Defense mechanism completely and exposing your vulnerability to the world? It is like, you are throwing away your survival skills which you have relied on from the day you were born. It is like putting your life in the hands of others, to become like a baby again.

That is how scary it is.

I feel that "falling in an endless pit" describes the feeling nicely. It is like letting go of something that you have been clinging on for dear life and suddenly, you decide to let go and just fall. While falling, the fear just keeps coming and gets stronger because you never know when your doom would come.

AhhhHHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

BUT, that's what we must face. That's the fear which we must learn to deal with, if we want to get in touch again with our true self and essence. And once you are in touch with that true self and essence, you find that your fears simply dissolve...All fear simply dissolve and you feel like you are not falling anymore...Rather, you feel like you are just floating...Likened to the feeling of a baby in the mother's womb.

The most powerful thing is that, once you are in touch with your true self and essence. You discover that all along, there is no fear at all. That, you are always loved and supported. That the universe is always behind you. That everything that you need is already around you. You are grounded and present. And more importantly, you are in touch with Being.

Who or what is this being, you may ask...I can't say. But, the closest I can suggest is maybe this.

NOT DEFINITIVE.

In Christianity, when you release the EGO, I suppose that is when you are able to be truly in touch with God. Because, you are in touch with the goodness that is already planted in you from the day you were born. In touch with the love that has been bestowed.

In Buddhism, it is a state of nothingness...Nirvana. Where you stop working on what is truly important in life and not what is transcient and meaningless.

I hope that I have not confused you. However, I am truly excited at my realization today. Have embarked on this journey...Long and Arduous but worth every effort.

:)

PSLE!!!

Dear friends who are taking PSLE.

You will do great. Just remember, stay calm and relax. A relaxed mind and body would enable one to recall information better. Therefore, enough good quality rest and a healthy diet is important too.

I am sure you have done your part and put in hard work for your PSLE. Do your best and great results will follow.

ALL THE BEST!

The Coming Exam Game!

Dear friends,

This post will be short as I know that a lot of you would be busy with your exam preparation.

The only message which I would like to send out to you would be this.

Look straight into the mirror, into that person that is staring back at you. Ask yourself this question..."Have I put in the deserving efforts to make sure I would do well for my exam?"

Wait for 1 min...and listen to your gut, heart and mind. The answer would ensure a good result...if you follow it.

I wish all students...THE BEST for the exams.

Cheers!
Ken