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Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Get Back Up Again...No Matter How Hard!

Dear Friends.

I would like to share this wonderful video which has taught me a lot. I hope that this video would bring you great inspiration to facing any obstacles you may have now, or in future.

One Of The World's Greatest Inspiration Of The Human Spirit.

Thursday, August 13, 2009

If Tomorrow Never Comes...

Dear friends,

If you are reading this now, you should be listening to the song, "If Tomorrow Never Comes", playing in the background. Reason I put this song on is because of the wonderful meaning behind it.

Here are two paragraphs which I found to be exceptionally touching and meaningful.

If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face the world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes

'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel

This is a song, not just for your spouse or boy/girlfriend, but for anyone who you care and love. They would be your grandparents, your siblings, your children, your friends.

If you were to ask yourself this question,
"Did I try in every way to show her every day that she's my only one"
This would allow us to consciously put in effort to make every moment that we have with our loved ones a special day, to let them know that they are special.

Otherwise, we may have to live with regrets as the song goes:
"Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed"

Personally, I have experienced this before and the pain is terrible. We can never turn back time, nor to revive our loved ones. However what you can do is to work on NOW.

Tell those you love, that you love them. Those that you care, that you care for them. And those who loves you, thank you. For at the end of the day, it is not your work that matters, or the amount of money you have that matters, or the number of properties you own that matters.

It is these people you love that matters.



Thursday, August 6, 2009

A wonderful video to share - Dr Pausch on Oprah

Dear friends,

If you go through my blog history, you would notice that I wrote an article called Last Lecture, which was inspired by Dr Pausch.

I would like to share this video clip whereby Dr Pausch gave his lecture on Oprah's show.

I am sure you would get something wonderful from this short 10 mins clip.

Enjoy!

Sunday, August 2, 2009

Power Of Kindness - Humility

Dear friends.

Hope all of you are doing well.

Recently, I have chanced upon another wonderful book (well, it was one month ago actually) called "The Power Of Kindess" by Piero Ferrucci, Psychosynthesis Practioner.

This book tells of all the amazing possibilities one can achieve through leading of a life of genuine kindness and it is divided into 19 parts or areas of Kindness, e.g. Empathy, Patience, Warmth, Honesty, Sense of Belonging, etc. Through which, Piero gave several intepretations and explanations on how Kindness would be able to "change" the world, both the world AROUND us...and the world INSIDE us.

I am going to start off this series of sharing based on the book, on the different aspect of Kindness and, share my feel about it. It would be great if I can get to hear from you too, and possibly, your own personal experience.

For today, I would like to touch on "Humility".

Quoted from Piero's book,

"Humility places us in a state where learning becomes possible. It gives us the taste of simplicity; and when we are simpler, we are also more genuine. Humility put into practice allows us to touch reality as it is...I am one among many, mortal and limited, a human beings among human beings. I do not have to prove myself superior to anyone. Others exist, each with their needs, their realities, their hopes and their dramas, and I am one among billions of people who exist on this planet..."

Without Humility, learning ceases. Once we start to say that we know enough, it is the the time we stopped learning. But more importantly, without Humility, we start to feel that we are superior as compared to others. We feel that we know more, we are better, we are smarter than others. And this is where problems arises.

One very good example would be of teachers and their students.

It is known that teachers who are humble enough to know that they do not know everything, and that they, too, make mistakes are usually the teachers who are better accepted by students and well loved.

On the other hand, teachers who uses their position and assume they know more things than the students, that they are "better", are usually those who are disliked by the students.

One personal experience that I can share now, is my Brazilian Jujitsu training.

We now have Jaguar, a BJJ blackbelter, training us. And the entire class respects him thoroughly.

NOT because of the fact that he can possibly kill us all with his techniques (which he can, especially since he trains and teaches for Mixed Martial Arts, Kickboxing and Capoeira.) And also not because his build is bigger than most of us.

The class respects him because of his humility...even as our teacher.

Jaguar would provide us with training and as best as he could, explanations about it. But he would always, and I mean, ALWAYS, assume there are better techniques than the ones he taught us, and ask us for our feedback/questions.

I am grateful that I have a teacher like him.

My other teacher, Darren, is also similar. He is the Gym master who is well trained in many Arts. E.g. He is a blackbelter in Hapkido. And as a Hapkido blackbelter, he is considered a "Master". But, he never wants to be called a "Master". And when he is, he would always ask people not to do so, saying, "I, myself, am still learning. So, don't call me a master."

And it is so true. We are always learning. So how can we become a "Master" when we do not know EVERYTHING.

As what Confucius said,


When you know that you know, let people know. So that people may be able to add on and you can learn.
When you know that you don't know, let people know. So that people may be able to teach you and you can learn.
That is called Knowing.

In short, have humility and you get to learn and grow.

However, in other aspects of our lives, the same applies. Through humility, we get to build a stronger bond with others. It could be our friends, colleagues, loved ones, and family members.

We must accept that we can never know everything about a person, which is why, there is always something new to learn from them. And with humility, you know that you want to learn more, and NOT to compete with the other person WHO KNOWS MORE.

When you have humility, people accepts you better. Without humility, people will move away from you.

Again, by Confucius.
三人行必有我师
When we are with others, there is a teacher amongst them.

When you have humility, genuine respect for others will follow. And that respect would be returned in favour.

Regards,
Ken