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Hey friends who are taking O Levels. ALL THE BEST!
This is your final lap this year.
So for this period of time, JUST STAY FOCUSED and DRIVE YOURSELF just a little bit harder.
After which you will have up to two months break...two months worth of doing almost anything that you want! Hey, it is a great deal. Do a great job for this 2-3 weeks, and you get a returns of 2 months worth of GUILT FREE enjoyment. :) You choose.
Create the results that you want for this last lap. You can choose the outcome for yourself. Take Charge!
Cheers!
Ken
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Last Lecture - Brick Wall
Dear friends.
Hope all is doing well and that your preparation for the Exams is going well. GO GO GO!! The final lap. After which, you can take time off to relax and enjoy. ENDURE.
Anyway, I just came back from my indo trip. And I was really happy to be able to spend time with my friends, namely Dickson, Yenny, Lisa, Tia, Lindy, Adeline, Josefine and how can I miss out, DD. Really glad that I was able to catch up with them again. And this time round, we also cooked dinner together. Made Rosti, Bak Choy with Oyster sauce (but think too much of carrots and baby corn..hehe), and a new dish which I created as inspired by my friend called...erm...Room Room Pepper.. haha. I think only those who were present would know what this means. It was really great. Think, I should learn more dishes so I may cook some more when I am in Indo. Must make DD grow little fatter. (OH, just for note, DD ate a lot during the dinner too. GREAT! haha)
If you are interested to find out more about my trip to Indo, you can visit DD's site. :)
Anyway, other than updating on my trip, I wrote this blog about "Brick Walls". It is from the book "The Last Lecture" by Randy Pausch. And of all the things he mentioned, the term "Brick Wall" was the one thing that set me thinking. I suppose, it was the one important point which I learnt from the book.
Brick walls are basically barriers that one needs to overcome in order to achieve one's goals. I reflected on my own life, and there were many brick walls which I have overcame to reach where I am at now.
And of all the brick walls which I overcame, would you want to know which is the biggest one?
It was...myself.
In the past, I used to have low self esteem, and sees poorly of myself. One of the biggest reasons was because I was obese then. I was often teased at by people around me. And I must admit that it did create a negative impact in my life (I would say, at least a good 5-8 years). For those few years of my life, I had created brick wall in many things which I wanted to do. I had created a brick wall that stopped me in achieving many things.
One very good example of this brick wall was in terms of relationship. In the past, I had a tough time to even talk to ladies whom I was interested in. Let's just say that, I would be reduced to behaving like a mouse in front of them. Now that I think about it, I can't believe that I even behaved in that manner in the past. haha.
Anyway, the thing is, I lost a lot of chances in the past. Not just in relationship, but in many aspects of my life. Money, Career, Friends, Opportunities.
For my friends who only got to know me recently, this phase of my life would sound very surprising to you. You may think that I am making this all up. Some may even think that, "You are lying. Look at you now. You can speak to anyone off the streets so easily. You must be lying." (I guess my indon friends would be laughing now. Especially Dickson and Yenny. Ice Cream incident.) Well, do believe me; I am not making this up.
Well, most would admit that I am very different now. I managed to overcome one of the biggest brick wall in my life. And I hope that the same can be the same for all my friends who are reading this.
So, what was it that created this change in me? What happened? Did I get hit on the head so hard that I changed so much?
I guess, if I were to put my finger on it, think there were two things which I learnt (note, learnt) to do which created the change.
The first being, I learnt to accept myself. And I have my friends to thank for that. Through them, they gave me a lot of affirmation on the wonderful things about me. They have always been very supportive. I remember that my friends chose to hang out with me, even though they were the popular people in school (hey, I was still a young teen then, so, it meant a lot to me.) And to my friends, they always thought that I was better than them in a lot of areas, and they never fail to let me know. So, it really helped me to build up my esteem. They let me saw that I am GOOD, and that I achieve a lot of great things in life. They also let me saw that I can achieve a lot of great things in future. Thanks, Pals.
So from this, I would say that it is important to be around good friends who builds you up, and shows you the good things about you and life.
Next, the second was I learnt to talk differently in my mind.
In the past, when I felt lowly of myself, I kept asking questions like, "What if I get rejected", "Would people laugh at me", "Should I even ask in the first place". And when I asked such questions, the brick wall in my head just gets big...or should I say, insurmountable and impossible. The questions I asked just got me more uncertainties and worries. And it set me in the state of inaction.
I can't really remember when the questions in my mind changed. But I do know what types of questions I started asking. From the earlier, it became, "Hey, what's the worst that will happen? You won't die from this", "You never know until you tried", "What can't kill you will only make you stronger." Well, silly as it may sound, these phrases that ring in my head did make a huge difference for me. In my mind, I was thinking more about the possibilities and that better things will happen if I just take action.
And until now, I still believe this. Hey, you only have one life (well, I can't confirm on that, BUT, let's just assume it is then). SO, if it something would bring benefit to you without hurting anyone or anything, WHY NOT just go ahead and take action?
Seriously, would it kill you to ask your friends for help when you are in need? Would you lose a pound of flesh if you ask a particular lady or guy out for dinner? What's the worst that would happen if you were to admit your mistake and just say sorry? What so scary about speaking in front of an audience? I guess, the worst is really nothing, as long as you do what is right. As long as you are right, usually NOTHING bad happens...actually, usually good things happen.
With the two points said...actually...my main point is this. I guess, I have beaten around the bush just to bring this point across to you. Or should I say, my point to you.
Break down your own brick wall first, and the brick wall of others becomes easy.
Hope all is doing well and that your preparation for the Exams is going well. GO GO GO!! The final lap. After which, you can take time off to relax and enjoy. ENDURE.
Anyway, I just came back from my indo trip. And I was really happy to be able to spend time with my friends, namely Dickson, Yenny, Lisa, Tia, Lindy, Adeline, Josefine and how can I miss out, DD. Really glad that I was able to catch up with them again. And this time round, we also cooked dinner together. Made Rosti, Bak Choy with Oyster sauce (but think too much of carrots and baby corn..hehe), and a new dish which I created as inspired by my friend called...erm...Room Room Pepper.. haha. I think only those who were present would know what this means. It was really great. Think, I should learn more dishes so I may cook some more when I am in Indo. Must make DD grow little fatter. (OH, just for note, DD ate a lot during the dinner too. GREAT! haha)
If you are interested to find out more about my trip to Indo, you can visit DD's site. :)
Anyway, other than updating on my trip, I wrote this blog about "Brick Walls". It is from the book "The Last Lecture" by Randy Pausch. And of all the things he mentioned, the term "Brick Wall" was the one thing that set me thinking. I suppose, it was the one important point which I learnt from the book.
Brick walls are basically barriers that one needs to overcome in order to achieve one's goals. I reflected on my own life, and there were many brick walls which I have overcame to reach where I am at now.
And of all the brick walls which I overcame, would you want to know which is the biggest one?
It was...myself.
In the past, I used to have low self esteem, and sees poorly of myself. One of the biggest reasons was because I was obese then. I was often teased at by people around me. And I must admit that it did create a negative impact in my life (I would say, at least a good 5-8 years). For those few years of my life, I had created brick wall in many things which I wanted to do. I had created a brick wall that stopped me in achieving many things.
One very good example of this brick wall was in terms of relationship. In the past, I had a tough time to even talk to ladies whom I was interested in. Let's just say that, I would be reduced to behaving like a mouse in front of them. Now that I think about it, I can't believe that I even behaved in that manner in the past. haha.
Anyway, the thing is, I lost a lot of chances in the past. Not just in relationship, but in many aspects of my life. Money, Career, Friends, Opportunities.
For my friends who only got to know me recently, this phase of my life would sound very surprising to you. You may think that I am making this all up. Some may even think that, "You are lying. Look at you now. You can speak to anyone off the streets so easily. You must be lying." (I guess my indon friends would be laughing now. Especially Dickson and Yenny. Ice Cream incident.) Well, do believe me; I am not making this up.
Well, most would admit that I am very different now. I managed to overcome one of the biggest brick wall in my life. And I hope that the same can be the same for all my friends who are reading this.
So, what was it that created this change in me? What happened? Did I get hit on the head so hard that I changed so much?
I guess, if I were to put my finger on it, think there were two things which I learnt (note, learnt) to do which created the change.
The first being, I learnt to accept myself. And I have my friends to thank for that. Through them, they gave me a lot of affirmation on the wonderful things about me. They have always been very supportive. I remember that my friends chose to hang out with me, even though they were the popular people in school (hey, I was still a young teen then, so, it meant a lot to me.) And to my friends, they always thought that I was better than them in a lot of areas, and they never fail to let me know. So, it really helped me to build up my esteem. They let me saw that I am GOOD, and that I achieve a lot of great things in life. They also let me saw that I can achieve a lot of great things in future. Thanks, Pals.
So from this, I would say that it is important to be around good friends who builds you up, and shows you the good things about you and life.
Next, the second was I learnt to talk differently in my mind.
In the past, when I felt lowly of myself, I kept asking questions like, "What if I get rejected", "Would people laugh at me", "Should I even ask in the first place". And when I asked such questions, the brick wall in my head just gets big...or should I say, insurmountable and impossible. The questions I asked just got me more uncertainties and worries. And it set me in the state of inaction.
I can't really remember when the questions in my mind changed. But I do know what types of questions I started asking. From the earlier, it became, "Hey, what's the worst that will happen? You won't die from this", "You never know until you tried", "What can't kill you will only make you stronger." Well, silly as it may sound, these phrases that ring in my head did make a huge difference for me. In my mind, I was thinking more about the possibilities and that better things will happen if I just take action.
And until now, I still believe this. Hey, you only have one life (well, I can't confirm on that, BUT, let's just assume it is then). SO, if it something would bring benefit to you without hurting anyone or anything, WHY NOT just go ahead and take action?
Seriously, would it kill you to ask your friends for help when you are in need? Would you lose a pound of flesh if you ask a particular lady or guy out for dinner? What's the worst that would happen if you were to admit your mistake and just say sorry? What so scary about speaking in front of an audience? I guess, the worst is really nothing, as long as you do what is right. As long as you are right, usually NOTHING bad happens...actually, usually good things happen.
With the two points said...actually...my main point is this. I guess, I have beaten around the bush just to bring this point across to you. Or should I say, my point to you.
Break down your own brick wall first, and the brick wall of others becomes easy.
When rejection doesn’t become an issue in your mind, you will not feel bad no matter how many times people reject you and you will just keep going at it. When you see that people’s comments and opinion only serve to make you improve, you will always stay positive. When challenges and problem are perceived as learning tools for you to grow with, you will be excited to overcome them. When you see other’s brick wall as a paper wall as compared to your own, you will never be afraid to ask anymore.
Alright, I am not poetic enough, but I hope you get the point.
I can only imagine, when you overcome your own great brick wall, what the possibilities would be for you.
Be great! Always!
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